Since I started to lose weight with PCOS, I have recieved several messages from all kinds of women, with or without the condition, telling me that I have been an inspiration to them and that makes me so happy. The thing is there has been a few that have opened up to me about their motivation problems and how their body issues depress them but they still can’t find the motivation to do anything about it. Well, I’m here to tell you… same here!
I havent always been such a collected person. I haven’t always had this motivation. Sure, I used to try to lose weight and fail but there was a long time where I had given up on getting back to health and just accepted that ‘fate had other plans for me.’ My body got me down. I used to stare in the mirror and cry sometimes because of the sight of me.
I was so depressed by my size. I’d often find myself thinking about being able to just cut it all off or even starve myself to get there. It wasn’t until I learned to love my body before I was able to take care of it. Just like I said in my previous post, you can’t fix your body to fix your mind.
You have to retrain your thought processes to be able to look at your body and like it. Depression makes you less likely to look after yourself. Key signs ofm it are a lack of personal hygeine and over or under eating. Afterall, why would you want to treat your body like a templem if you hate it?
I started retraining my thoughts with three simple things:
1) Notice the little things you like about yourself – There will always be tiny things about yourself that you do like. The voices are just in the way. Focus on them! I learned to love my eyes, lips, hips and breasts first.
2) Look at other women who are of your size or bigger who are famous online – The movement of plus size models on social media played a big part in helping me love my body. I was a large girl and looking at people like Tess Holiday and Ashley Graham on instagram helped me love the way my hips curve and appreciate that I had curves.
3) Listen to what other people like about you – Whether it’s your friends or a partner, when they tell you something that they like about you, listen. Don’t put yourself down or let yourself think that they don’t mean it. THEY DO MEAN IT!
Once you have learned to love yourself, it will be easier to have the energy and motivation to take care of your mental and physical health and a lot of the time the two are closely linked.