SHARING: My journey of healing after an abusive relationship

https://positiveoutlooksblog.com/2018/03/28/my-journey-of-healing-after-an-abusive-relationship/

“I know now how to set boundaries, to understand what I am and am not willing to accept in relationships.”

Via Positive Outlooks

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BOOK RELEASED: The Price Of Fabulous is here!

Here it is… the moment I have been waiting for for a very long time! It’s here, it’s queer and it came from Tyne and Wear… It is THE PRICE OF FABULOUS!

Available in Paperback and Ebook! Coming soon to Amazon and Barnes and Noble but if you just cant wait that long… order here direct from the publishers!

SYNOPSIS:

“People have their beliefs about gender roles and sexuality, most of which are usually spoon fed to followers of particular religions; but in my family these ‘values’ were fed to us in an abusive manner.” – Kayla Leigh Charis

These two sisters couldn’t be more different if they tried. Raised in an abusive home, they struggle to get the help they need after being silenced by fear. Eventually, the family that they think they are safe with turns against them for one very cruel reason. They must stand up for each other and hold on to their own art form to keep themselves sane and emerge as powerful young women.

This is survival.

This is sisterhood.

LINKS:

Paperback: http://www.lulu.com/…/the-p…/paperback/product-23566887.html

Ebook: http://www.lulu.com/…/the-price…/ebook/product-23566894.html

The Royal visit to Millennium Point

As part of International Women’s Day the newly engaged Royal couple, Prince Harry and Meghan Marble visited Birmingham’s Millennium Point to discuss breaking the stereotypes that women face in the work place. I managed to catch a glimpse of them as they walked by the university campus this morning.

A hyperglycemic’s best friend – WATER!

Over the past 8 months I have been trying to fix the damage that has been causing havoc all over my body for the last 6 years that I have been suffering from PCOS and the last 2 years that I have been battling the Insulin Resistance symptom – Hyperglycemia.

What is hyperglycemia?

Hyperglycemia is the medical term describing an abnormally high blood glucose (blood sugar) level. Blood sugar is measured in a sample of blood taken from a vein or from a small finger stick sample of blood. It can be measured in a laboratory either alone or with other blood tests, or it can be measured using a handheld glucometer, a small device that allows frequent monitoring of blood glucose levels without the need for a doctor’s office or laboratory.

Hyperglycemia is a hallmark sign of diabetes (both type 1 diabetes and type 2 diabetes) and prediabetes. Normal ranges for blood glucose measurements can vary slightly among different laboratories, but in general a fasting (early a.m. before breakfast) glucose level is considered normal if it is between 70-100 mg/dL. Glucose levels may rise slightly above this range following a meal. Random blood glucose measurements are usually lower than 125 mg/dL.

– https://www.medicinenet.com/hyperglycemia/article.htm#hyperglycemia_facts

When you have Hyperglycemia as part of PCOS it is in the pre-diabetes stage but can lead to Type 2 diabetes in the future. Hyperglycemia can be dangerous from the outset as consistently high blood glucose can cause damage to the capillaries in the brain, eyes, kidneys and legs.

What’s my experience with Hyperglycemia?

I have been diagnosed with this since September 2017 after a difficulty losing weight with PCOS, sugar crashing daily and persistent UTI infections. The main thing I was recommended to help tackle it was changing to a Low GI diet and exercising more to help stop me sugar crashing daily.

My worst experiences with it had been:

  • Passing out for 6 and a half hours after drinking a milkshake
  • Having an energy drink which lead to a seizure
  • Unexplained blood in my urine
  • Inability to lose weight
  • Being unable to have blood taken due to dehydration

Those all calmed down from the change in diet. It was suspected that my common water infections and the blood in my urine was caused by the damage that insulin resistance had caused to my kidneys.

Recently I ended off in hospital with the same pains in my kidneys as I would usually get when I had a UTI without the usual burning sensation that you would usually get from a UTI. My white blood cell count was high. My blood sugar was dropping steeply (uncommon for someone with hyperglycemia). What was going on?

Turns out that I was dangerously dehydrating myself when working out and I had angered the damage that was there from the last two years. I was in so much pain and unable to lie down or sit up without assistance that I thought my kidneys were going to fail.

The doctors initially thought that I had kidney stones due to signs of inflammation on the tube from my right kidney to my bladder found in an ultrasound scan but thankfully a CT scan showed that everything was normal after a few days of staying in hospital on drips and keeping hydrated.

The doctors never mention how important water is when your Hyperglycemic. I can’t expect the damage to be gone in 8 months of changing my lifestyle after two years worth of damage. When suffering from this you have to drink more than the average person. STAY HYDRATED!

 

15 little things that make me happy

15. The smell of a new book

I love the smell of a new book and I have never quite understood why. Ordinary paper doesn’t really have a smell. Maybe it’s the glue that binds it all together… which would make us glue sniffers… but still it smells nice so don’t judge me!

14. A new hair cut

Nothing makes me feel better than a new hair cut. I have naturally thick hair and when it is at its thickest it is incredibly difficult to brush through… makes me feel gross when I can’t brush through it all.

13. New clothes

Buying new clothes and wearing them for the first time is the best… looking at yourself in the mirror like… DAYMN!

12. Flowers

It’s an outdated idea that your partner should buy you flowers when you’re in a relationship but that doesn’t mean getting them doesn’t make me happy.

11. Aesthetically pleasing food

Yes… I’m one of those people who posts photos of their food on Instagram and watches all those videos of the bizarre looking cakes.

10. A musical

I love a good musical. My all time favourite is Hairspray. I know all the words to all the songs and hearing any of them makes me instantly happy.

09. Writing in a new notebook

We all have this one. It’s why we would write extra big towards the end of an exercise book in school so that we could hurry up and get to our new one and start writing in our best handwriting again.

08. Nerdy people

Nerdy people are great. They are so passionate about a lot of things and most of them are fictional. Maybe it’s the writer in me that makes me love them. I would love someone to be that passionate about my characters.

07. Other people’s laughter

Those people who have a laugh better than the joke are the best kind of people to be around.

06. Being called beautiful

Being called beautiful is so much better than being called hot or sexy. I’ll never feel like someone is looking at me like I am a piece of meat when they call me beautiful.

05. Old couples

A reminder that true love does exist and you just have to find it.

04. Dancing (or exercise in general)

Dancing makes me feel free. Exercise releases happy hormones so although I really hate the gym, I love how I feel when the work out is done.

03. Babies who look surprised but haven’t grown eyebrows yet

I just think they’re too adorable when they do that.

02. Dogs

YEAH I’M A DOG PERSON. I would be a cat person too if their fur didn’t make me so itchy.

01. Being in love

This is a feeling that I genuinely miss because I haven’t been deeply and madly in love with anyone for a long time. Maybe that’s just growing up or maybe I’m too broken to ever feel like that again. Either way… That is where I am truly happy.